| 1
out of 4 white children in America
are
born without a father. (25%) |
2
out of 3 black children in America
are
born without a father. (66%) |
NEED
TO MAINTAIN OUR NATION's POPULATION GROWTH-RATE:
Please, before you
read this page, visit also another page on this web site which has been titled
"Maternity Leave". Why?
Because, there I explain why it is important to America that we have a strong
nuclear family with -at least- three children per couple. I do
not want to go through that story once again, it would be redundant.
Our nation has a slightly positive
population growth rate, but only because
during the last two decades we welcomed a flood of new immigrants.
Without these recent arrivals, and thanks to their tendency to have larger families
than we do (despite their poverty), our country continues to grow
-slightly nevertheless.
Without immigration,
our growth rate would actually be negative, like it is currently in Spain,
Russia, Italy, Sweden and some other western countries.
IN THE USA
TEENAGER's PREGNANCIES ARE OUT OF CONTROL:
 | Progressively, and since
the 1960's when we discovered the anti conceptive pill, there has been a
behavioral change in the society.
Without fear of getting pregnant, sexual freedom (we used to call
it "promiscuity") is unrelentingly becoming the norm in many
countries around the world. |
| Girls start very young to have sexual contacts,
and 380,000 teenagers
involuntarily become pregnant every year in America. About
180,000 of
those pregnancies end up in abortion. Of that other half that reach
fruition, can the subjects become happy mothers? |
| I am pro-choice, because I
have no doubt that it should be the right of a woman to conceive, or
not to conceive. That should not even be
questioned! If not because of my understanding of historical
religious impositions and intolerance, I would not even comprehend
why that became an issue at all. |
| Yet, this destruction of more
than 40 million viable fetuses in less than 20 years bothers me.
The root of the problem is a total irresponsible
-often negligent- behavior that has a huge social cost. It has
to be corrected somehow. |
| We have in America
the highest rate in teenage-pregnancy in the
western world, nothing to be proud of (please visit
page "Pro-Choice"). |
| Those statistics do not surprise me -as I already mentioned
in another page- if you understand the fact that humans are egoistic by
nature (as we studied in Evolutionary Genetics). Many
people out there are very shortsighted, egocentric, and too focused on
their frivolous pleasure of a few minutes. Often with total
disregard on the consequences, and on the effect that their actions
can have on a person for the rest of his/her life. |
FEMALE SEXUAL
PERMISSIVENESS IN WIDELY ACCEPTED:
... Is it really ?
It might be in appearance!
| The
truth is than no man with common sense is that foolish |
| Many men will say that it does not matter to
them if their girlfriends have had many sexual partners in the
past. Most often than not, they will admit they are lying about
this. At the end they will try to marry the "right"
girl. |
| Others are not farsighted enough to
understand the future consequences of this promiscuous behavior in
a lasting relationship. |
| Those who really do not care much,
are those who do not put much toll in a marriage anyway, and typically
end
up divorcing after four or five years or less. Often at a great cost to
innocent children. |
| We
also have one of the highest divorce rates in the western world.
No wonder why? When the first frictions in a marriage start to
occur (itching), how can you be assured than your husband
-or your wife- is going to be faithful? Studies say that
-on average- your partner has been romantically involved in the past
with quite a few
people. Would they quickly look for
"consol" and "support" from a previous lover ? |
| It is even worse when they do not see much
ethically wrong with being casually "physical" with somebody from time
to time to "spice" up the marriage... as I heard a
few times. |
| It is good that I am non-religious, otherwise you would
probably think that it is because of my pious beliefs that I am such a
"nerdy" thinker. Honestly,
I take marriage very seriously. If I did not love my
partner, or if I were to expect a divorce in a
few years, I would not consider getting married at all. I would
rather stay single. And -definitely- in that case I would do my
best to avoid having children. |
| Children at all ages, but especially in
their infancy, cannot instinctively relate to the divorce of their
parents. They love both parents. They are abhorred seeing
one departing. They suffer a tremendous shock. You can try
to mitigate the effect with counseling or whatever, but the psychological
damage is still bound to be enormous. |
| I know there are millions
of children out there from divorced parents, yet that is not
reassuring at all, it
only makes the drama more palpable. In those millions are
included three of my own children, I had a divorce after 21 years of
marriage. Actually, we waited a few years to minimize the impact
on them. |
| There
are some instincts that have been programmed in the human behavior
through out the expanse of many thousands of years -not decades.
You cannot change deep feelings inside you in just one
generation. You
might try to rationalize that promiscuity is not an important issue to
you. And you might even act on this pseudo-conviction, only to
suffer severe consequences later for your "open-minded"
attitude. If not you, your children will suffer. |
| Many of these
"free-for-all" types would end up marrying a
"lesser" person than the one they originally aspired to
have. Still others will not find a permanent mate at all. Many
potential good candidates, will likely opt out of the relationship
when they realize it is starting to develop some roots. They will give some excuse. |
| Deep down smart people know is not worth
the risk trying a marriage under those dark clouds.
Especially when -in this day and age- you can have plenty of partners
without having to make such a drastic step: committed marriage. |
| These suitors might be children of
divorces themselves, and they know what they went through when the
father left. It is
sad to be a father who does not see his children much, nor has much input in
their lives. What you have is a thorn deeply inserted in your heart,
and a big child support payment that has to be sent monthly for the next 15 to 20
years. Who wants that? |
| If
there were stability in marriages in America, and quality
home-life,
and a dedicated housewife, many men would probably chose that
civil state, and likely they would enjoy having a large family.
But wives have to work (do they?), divorces are too common, many people live irresponsible
lives. |
| To make matters worse,
some women -when
their biological clock is nearing the last ticks- will decide to
have children out of wedlock, because the maternal instinct is calling.
Not because it makes sense, or because it improves the welfare of the
child. On the contrary, statistics indicate that
children of single mothers are 80%
more likely will live in poverty. |
| Single-mothers will also try
to rationalize that a husband is not really needed, and that the child
will do fine without a father. We all know that is unrealistic at
best. True, if the husband to be is a violent drunk, then you better not
marry that guy. But you should have the smarts to
chose better. For starters, do not go to the wrong
places to meet people, you will not find a good selection of suitors
there. |
So
you expected this page to be just a regular Politician propaganda,
talking non-sense on what he is going to do for Child Care once he
gets elected. Instead you are getting a reprimand and a lecture
by this other candidate, who has not yet started to say where he stands in
Child Care.
Well I arrive there now... Let me ask
first...
How
many political candidates out there have the guts to write about what I am
daring here in covering?
And, if they
mention these issues at all, are their views clearly positioned, or are
they purposely fuzzy and ambivalent ? so as not to antagonize any
major voter's block.
What
follows are my stands in Child Care!
- Enough production and consumerism,
forget the huge house, the BMW, and the trip to Cancun. If
you are a mother you owe it to your child to work less outside your
home.
Period.
- If you can- stay
at home with your children until the youngest goes
to school (4 or 5 years old).
- In order to achieve that, it
would be almost essential to have a good supportive husband.
It is not going to be very likely that you will find such a nice husband if you have not been a decent, respectful woman yourself.
That this makes sense? If you found
one despite your past foolishness, consider yourself very lucky. Take good
care of him.
- If
you can avoid it, do not be a single mother, you can do better than
that!. A whopping 80% of children in single-mother homes live
under the poverty line. Do not fight statistics, you are
bound to lose. Go with the wind. If you have a husband,
and something were to happen to you,
your children will not become orphans. Think
about that!
- Maybe you did not have a
"good" father. Maybe you did not have a father at all (that
you knew). If you had such a misfortune,
have you had a happy childhood?
Maybe you overcame the difficulties because you received a lot of
support from other relatives or friends. But, deep down you probably
still have deep scars. Do you want your
children to go through the same martyrdom?
- Do not blame
only your partner for all your
marital problems. Work the problems out with
acumen. If you have children, stop and look at their faces
before you take a foolish decision. They are the ones who will
pay the heaviest price.
- Do
not conceive a child if you do not see a stable marriage.
Do not take that kind of risk, if
the relationship with your partner does not work out, get out of it quick,
before it gets too complicated for you to be able to do that.
But, if you already have children who are happy living with your
partner, then -please- try real hard to work out the problems in
the marital relationship, with honesty and without egoism.
- If you recognize that your past
sex-life has much to do with your marital problems, then do not allow your children (especially
your daughters) to try the same path. Be
assertive, do not allow indecent behavior. Watch your
children. Advice them. Support them. Have plenty of
time for them. No money excuses. Live with less, and take good care of them. It will pay you a lot more
than been neglectful to them.
- Do not charge to credit cards expenses
that you will have problem paying back later on.
Hope that
things will get better, but do not count on it! Avoid the
credit card trap!
- If possible, do not send your child to
Pre Kinder Garden, or Kinder Garden, or even Pre-School. Give
them care until they have the maturity to go to school at age 4 or 5.
Period.
- Did you know that in America women
account for 43% of the labor force, but in Germany only 26% of women
work. It is even better in Japan and France where only 9% of
women are income earners. If you would like to stay home go to
India, there only 2% of women work outside their homes. We
became hooked to "both spouses being income earners", and this
is killing the family's quality of life.
- Finally, if it is impossible, or is already too late, to be
able to do anything of the above, then send them to child care.
Make sure they will take good care of your precious things.
- I promise I will fight for
you! So US employers
and our Government, will provide the most resources possible for you
to afford the best high-quality child care. But do not forget
that ...
THE
BEST CARE IS THE MOTHER's CARE, AND AT HOME !!!
- At least that is what I believe firmly. There is no religious
doctrine here. Just plane common-sense, and some knowledge of
human needs and social evolution (thought out the millennia).
Thanks for reading this page. Even if I
do not get elected, I will feel good if some people would take my
advice. |
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The photographer, Dorothea Lange, on her series
of photographs titled "A photographer
recollections" wrote in 1936:
"They have been living on [unmarketable]
vegetables from the ... fields, and birds that the children killed.
She had just sold the tires from her car to buy food."
Another
picture worth a thousand words. This picture was not taken in
Siberia. This is America in 1936. If you do not feel sorrow
seeing this picture, then you are not a human being !
Although perhaps to a lesser degree, this still happens in
America today. And
-definitely- it is still a daily occurrence in many other parts of
this world, in the 21st century that we live. That bothers me.
But, if we can not regulate the world, at least in
America children should not be mistreated or "feel" abandoned
from their parents. And that includes children
of guest workers. They are not less human than we are!
Juan Xuna
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